Started medititating, is this a normal a problem??
Question: I just started recently to try and rid myself of tension. I do it once or twice a day for a short period. I start to relax when I meditate but when I stop I get all tense again. The whole thing seems kind of pointless.
Answers: If you persist, you will probably progress. I have found there are always barriers in meditation, but once you are over them it can help a lot. You could try a different technique as well. Maybe you are just becoming aware of the tension which was already there, which would be a good thing. Some people have a tendency to become focussed on an end result rather than the process itself. This is known as end gaining and it might help to think about if that applies to you.
Meditation is not a quick fix but it does help if you keep doing it. You need to look at what is making you so tense and find some ways to fix some of that. If it is lifestyle you are in for a long haul as changing old habits takes work and sticking too it. You might need some more exercise also. Do some fun thing for a few minutes everyday even if it is just jumping up and down in front of a mirror and making faces at yourself. You can imagine anyone you want to make faces at while you do it. That should make you laugh and that is a great way to destress.
Try laying down in your bed and instead of focused breathing, take three deep breaths and then breathe normally. Instead of focusing on the surroundings, wear ear plugs and listen to silence.
Distractions are a very big reason why meditation is hard to do ... you must find a way to allow your positive energy to remain ... it seems like you are not getting rid of your negative energy. If you need help, let me know ...
Meditation is an excellent way to dissipate stress, as you have already learned. However, meditation by itself won't stop the source of the stress, which is the thoughts that you are thinking.
So you get relaxed by meditating, but then you immediately go back to thinking the persistent thoughts that trigger the stress in the first place.
There are number of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) techniques that you can use to train your unconscious mind to use your persistent negative thoughts as triggers for positive, calming thoughts. These techniques are the real secret to getting your unconscious to provide the relaxation that you seek.
Here is a couple of articles that can help you to understand the process:
http://www.neuro-vision.us/Articles/hypn...
http://www.neuro-vision.us/Products/Audi...
Take more time to make the transition to activity...
Also, the things that make you tense may be deep seated worries... it may take some persistence with meditation to release those deep seated problems.
Just continue the practice and over time things will improve. You may want to add a little Yoga to the practice... that will speed up the transformation.
There are a couple of nice Yoga links on this website in the Leap Over Web Clutter section....
What method do you use? Maybe you should make it more convenient to fit in with your daily routine:
Here again I do not know, or care, for the asanas (body positions for meditation)—I just find it more convenient to meditate while sitting in my office chair or while lying down on my bed. Since in these positions the back of the head and the spine are touched and it is then easier to focus the mind on them. The method of my meditation is to take the focus off the front lobe of the brain and to the back—from there I work my way down the spine, feeling (and focusing on) the backbone against the bed or chair. This exercise I repeat several times for ten minutes, after which the pressure on the front part of the brain (where the major part of our audio-visual information and calculations are processed) is lifted and a few moments of serenity bring a smile to my face.
Answers: If you persist, you will probably progress. I have found there are always barriers in meditation, but once you are over them it can help a lot. You could try a different technique as well. Maybe you are just becoming aware of the tension which was already there, which would be a good thing. Some people have a tendency to become focussed on an end result rather than the process itself. This is known as end gaining and it might help to think about if that applies to you.
Meditation is not a quick fix but it does help if you keep doing it. You need to look at what is making you so tense and find some ways to fix some of that. If it is lifestyle you are in for a long haul as changing old habits takes work and sticking too it. You might need some more exercise also. Do some fun thing for a few minutes everyday even if it is just jumping up and down in front of a mirror and making faces at yourself. You can imagine anyone you want to make faces at while you do it. That should make you laugh and that is a great way to destress.
Try laying down in your bed and instead of focused breathing, take three deep breaths and then breathe normally. Instead of focusing on the surroundings, wear ear plugs and listen to silence.
Distractions are a very big reason why meditation is hard to do ... you must find a way to allow your positive energy to remain ... it seems like you are not getting rid of your negative energy. If you need help, let me know ...
Meditation is an excellent way to dissipate stress, as you have already learned. However, meditation by itself won't stop the source of the stress, which is the thoughts that you are thinking.
So you get relaxed by meditating, but then you immediately go back to thinking the persistent thoughts that trigger the stress in the first place.
There are number of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) techniques that you can use to train your unconscious mind to use your persistent negative thoughts as triggers for positive, calming thoughts. These techniques are the real secret to getting your unconscious to provide the relaxation that you seek.
Here is a couple of articles that can help you to understand the process:
http://www.neuro-vision.us/Articles/hypn...
http://www.neuro-vision.us/Products/Audi...
Take more time to make the transition to activity...
Also, the things that make you tense may be deep seated worries... it may take some persistence with meditation to release those deep seated problems.
Just continue the practice and over time things will improve. You may want to add a little Yoga to the practice... that will speed up the transformation.
There are a couple of nice Yoga links on this website in the Leap Over Web Clutter section....
What method do you use? Maybe you should make it more convenient to fit in with your daily routine:
Here again I do not know, or care, for the asanas (body positions for meditation)—I just find it more convenient to meditate while sitting in my office chair or while lying down on my bed. Since in these positions the back of the head and the spine are touched and it is then easier to focus the mind on them. The method of my meditation is to take the focus off the front lobe of the brain and to the back—from there I work my way down the spine, feeling (and focusing on) the backbone against the bed or chair. This exercise I repeat several times for ten minutes, after which the pressure on the front part of the brain (where the major part of our audio-visual information and calculations are processed) is lifted and a few moments of serenity bring a smile to my face.
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