L've never been able to make friends.Self help books don't seem to work for me.What am l doing wrong??
Answers: I don't know enough about you to tell you what you are doing wrong...
But what I would suggest is to relax. Don't worry about it too much. If you're worried and nervous when meeting someone it's not going to go as well. Don't worry about what other people think of you! You don't want to be their friend if they don't like you for who you are anyway.
Where are you trying to meet people? What do you like to do? Do you like reading? Join a book club? Do you like to go hiking? Join a hiking club.
Best of luck to you!
i dont know what you doing is wrong! but we can be friends:) just email me...
you don't need friends, the more people you know the more complicated your life will become.
Maybe looking for friends in different places would be helpful. Sometimes common interests are a great spark for friendship. How about try a local community (or school/college) club that focuses on a hobby or interest of yours. You could even consider taking up a hobby that you haven't formerly explored (photography, conservation, gardening, knitting, etc).
Best of luck,
~M~
1stly you should try making friends with your inner-self. Learn to love yourself for who you are not what you think others want you to be.
Once you have done that, trust me, new people will start coming into your life.
Just go out there and try to meet as many people as possible. Show your true colors around them, then you will know they will accept you for who you are. =] Try having your current friends introducing you to their friends, I'm sure you can get more friends by using current people in your life. I'm sure these people would be glad to help also.
There is no formula for making friends. You can get some ideas, but ultimately you have to get yourself out of the books and into the world where you can meet potential friends.
Some people make friends more easily than others. Try not to beat yourself up for having a hard time. That only makes it worse.
Try volunteering to help the old, sick, poor, or underprivileged children. This will accomplish a number of things. You will meet people who are suffering, perhaps more than you, but are still surviving sometimes with amazingly great attitudes, you will feel good about yourself for helping others, you will meet other volunteers who can be potential friends. People who volunteer with the outcasts of our society tend to be very accepting and loving, which would make it much easier for you to make friends with them.
I don't know you personally, so I wouldn't be able to tell you what you are doing wrong. I can tell you from experience that self help books haven't helped me to make friends, although that is not the reason I bought them.
You should just be yourself. There are several places to meet people. Bookstores, parks, movie theaters, malls, sports events... Just be patient. You will meet people when you least expect it. Good luck to you.
You kept reading self help books and expect too much from yourself..when you failed your expectations, eventualy (maybe) you get mad..
Making friends is too easy...
1. Think Happy thoughts
2. Smile
3. Talk Happy
4. Smile
5. Communicate
6. Smile
7. Share Your Happy Thoughts
8. Smile
9. Smile....
10. smile....
Friends will come soon...
How do you think people on Yahoo Answers would know what are you doing wrong? Why would not you just say - Hey I need a friend!
you may be suffering from depression,which is a barrier to making friends-a psychologist may help,via your GP
I can't make friends either, because I have paranoia. Whenever I meet people, I think they're talking about me and convinced they don't like me very quickly, which means that I leave their company so they don't have to put up with me any more. I've even thought about walking out on my partner of 4 years who has stuck with me through some of the most unpleasant situations you can thrust upon a new partner, simply because I'm convinced he doesn't love me but doesn't have the guts to leave. I've thought about asking exactly the same question on here many times. I'm off to see my Dr tomorrow to get some help with this and other problems. If I find out anything useful, I'll let you know.
You can chat with me,
IM me
But what I would suggest is to relax. Don't worry about it too much. If you're worried and nervous when meeting someone it's not going to go as well. Don't worry about what other people think of you! You don't want to be their friend if they don't like you for who you are anyway.
Where are you trying to meet people? What do you like to do? Do you like reading? Join a book club? Do you like to go hiking? Join a hiking club.
Best of luck to you!
i dont know what you doing is wrong! but we can be friends:) just email me...
you don't need friends, the more people you know the more complicated your life will become.
Maybe looking for friends in different places would be helpful. Sometimes common interests are a great spark for friendship. How about try a local community (or school/college) club that focuses on a hobby or interest of yours. You could even consider taking up a hobby that you haven't formerly explored (photography, conservation, gardening, knitting, etc).
Best of luck,
~M~
1stly you should try making friends with your inner-self. Learn to love yourself for who you are not what you think others want you to be.
Once you have done that, trust me, new people will start coming into your life.
Just go out there and try to meet as many people as possible. Show your true colors around them, then you will know they will accept you for who you are. =] Try having your current friends introducing you to their friends, I'm sure you can get more friends by using current people in your life. I'm sure these people would be glad to help also.
There is no formula for making friends. You can get some ideas, but ultimately you have to get yourself out of the books and into the world where you can meet potential friends.
Some people make friends more easily than others. Try not to beat yourself up for having a hard time. That only makes it worse.
Try volunteering to help the old, sick, poor, or underprivileged children. This will accomplish a number of things. You will meet people who are suffering, perhaps more than you, but are still surviving sometimes with amazingly great attitudes, you will feel good about yourself for helping others, you will meet other volunteers who can be potential friends. People who volunteer with the outcasts of our society tend to be very accepting and loving, which would make it much easier for you to make friends with them.
I don't know you personally, so I wouldn't be able to tell you what you are doing wrong. I can tell you from experience that self help books haven't helped me to make friends, although that is not the reason I bought them.
You should just be yourself. There are several places to meet people. Bookstores, parks, movie theaters, malls, sports events... Just be patient. You will meet people when you least expect it. Good luck to you.
You kept reading self help books and expect too much from yourself..when you failed your expectations, eventualy (maybe) you get mad..
Making friends is too easy...
1. Think Happy thoughts
2. Smile
3. Talk Happy
4. Smile
5. Communicate
6. Smile
7. Share Your Happy Thoughts
8. Smile
9. Smile....
10. smile....
Friends will come soon...
How do you think people on Yahoo Answers would know what are you doing wrong? Why would not you just say - Hey I need a friend!
you may be suffering from depression,which is a barrier to making friends-a psychologist may help,via your GP
I can't make friends either, because I have paranoia. Whenever I meet people, I think they're talking about me and convinced they don't like me very quickly, which means that I leave their company so they don't have to put up with me any more. I've even thought about walking out on my partner of 4 years who has stuck with me through some of the most unpleasant situations you can thrust upon a new partner, simply because I'm convinced he doesn't love me but doesn't have the guts to leave. I've thought about asking exactly the same question on here many times. I'm off to see my Dr tomorrow to get some help with this and other problems. If I find out anything useful, I'll let you know.
You can chat with me,
IM me
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