Can work lead to depression? Is that what's really bothering me??
Question: I feel depressed most of the day. I'm at a job were I have very minimal contact with other people and it's really starting to get to me. It's gotten worse since I got married in May. We took a honeymoon to Hawaii and I actually cried on my first day back. I didn't even have anyone to tell how much fun we. I've been drinking just about every day after work. I'm also in college and I got a 4.0 last semester and my work performance has not suffered... I just feel like I'm suffering on the inside and I can't seem to make myself feel better. I don't really have friends, but I love and appreciate my husband and he really is my only support system. He also works and goes to school full time... so we really only get to spend time together over the weekend. And I hate the fact that he thinks I'm feeling down because we are married... which is not the case at all. I'm paid well at work and I may have opportunities to excel over the long run, but I can't stand feeling like this anymore.
Answers: Dear Missy T.:
Check out who you can talk to about these issues you are feeling. It sounds like many things life has brought you are either overwhelming or just too much right now. You need professional advice from a licensed physician/psychologist. If these are TRULY your issues, then seek professional advice before other things in your life start falling apart soon.
Are you sure there isn't anyone that you can talk to? I don't really have any friends either, but I consider my husband my best friend. I talk to him about everything, which I am sure I probably annoy him, but he says I am not!! LOL!! Anyway, maybe you should seek professional help if you are feeling depressed.
Have you considered that there may be nothing wrong with you? And that your feelings are telling you that its time for a change? Sounds to me like you are more of a people person, stuck in isolation. You may start researching other job opportunities that meet your needs a little better. Then, when you find what you are looking for, get the new job first before quitting. It may also have something to do with how much sunlight/daylight you are getting. People prone to depression often are sucseptible to a lack of natural light, making the depression worse. And lastly, you can always get some counseling short term to help you deal with the problems.Furtheremore, since you are in school, take a few minutes before or after class to hang around and meet class mates. Good Luck.
First of all, I am sorry that you are feeling like this. I went through something similar to this before. For me, it was stress and alot of it was unnecessary stress I was putting on myself. My depression carried on to my pregnancy and after my baby was born. Personally, medication didn't work for me, it made me more depressed. Stress can make you suspectiable (sp?) to other mental issues. Personally, what did it for me, was talking to my spouse and family consistantly and praying and letting it all out to God:) What finally helped me to get over my depression was asking myself the following questions, Am I trying to control EVERY little thing in my life? Do I have unreal or high expectations of myself? Once I let go of the stuff I couldn't control or realized it wasn't gonna matter in 100 years, it really helped me feel better and I made peace with myself that I can't be perfect in everything. Plus it takes time. Time is medicine:) Just be strong and know that nothing is permanent, cherish the time that you can spend with your husband, my husband is in the military and is gone a lot of the time, I wish I could see him every weekend like you:) Consider yourself a very lucky person:) I hope this helps:)
Some people need more social contact than others. I found this out about myself 8 yrs ago. I have summers off of work and it is great for the first month or so and then I get bored . I have the need to interact with people besides the people in my own household. It would be a good idea to talk to your general practioner first and they may have answers for you. I am on antidepressants for depression. I wish I wasn't but it helps and it is much better than feeling 'alone', 'isolated', and/or 'hopeless'. I am also considering a full time job to keep my mind busy. Hope ur feeling better soon
Answers: Dear Missy T.:
Check out who you can talk to about these issues you are feeling. It sounds like many things life has brought you are either overwhelming or just too much right now. You need professional advice from a licensed physician/psychologist. If these are TRULY your issues, then seek professional advice before other things in your life start falling apart soon.
Are you sure there isn't anyone that you can talk to? I don't really have any friends either, but I consider my husband my best friend. I talk to him about everything, which I am sure I probably annoy him, but he says I am not!! LOL!! Anyway, maybe you should seek professional help if you are feeling depressed.
Have you considered that there may be nothing wrong with you? And that your feelings are telling you that its time for a change? Sounds to me like you are more of a people person, stuck in isolation. You may start researching other job opportunities that meet your needs a little better. Then, when you find what you are looking for, get the new job first before quitting. It may also have something to do with how much sunlight/daylight you are getting. People prone to depression often are sucseptible to a lack of natural light, making the depression worse. And lastly, you can always get some counseling short term to help you deal with the problems.Furtheremore, since you are in school, take a few minutes before or after class to hang around and meet class mates. Good Luck.
First of all, I am sorry that you are feeling like this. I went through something similar to this before. For me, it was stress and alot of it was unnecessary stress I was putting on myself. My depression carried on to my pregnancy and after my baby was born. Personally, medication didn't work for me, it made me more depressed. Stress can make you suspectiable (sp?) to other mental issues. Personally, what did it for me, was talking to my spouse and family consistantly and praying and letting it all out to God:) What finally helped me to get over my depression was asking myself the following questions, Am I trying to control EVERY little thing in my life? Do I have unreal or high expectations of myself? Once I let go of the stuff I couldn't control or realized it wasn't gonna matter in 100 years, it really helped me feel better and I made peace with myself that I can't be perfect in everything. Plus it takes time. Time is medicine:) Just be strong and know that nothing is permanent, cherish the time that you can spend with your husband, my husband is in the military and is gone a lot of the time, I wish I could see him every weekend like you:) Consider yourself a very lucky person:) I hope this helps:)
Some people need more social contact than others. I found this out about myself 8 yrs ago. I have summers off of work and it is great for the first month or so and then I get bored . I have the need to interact with people besides the people in my own household. It would be a good idea to talk to your general practioner first and they may have answers for you. I am on antidepressants for depression. I wish I wasn't but it helps and it is much better than feeling 'alone', 'isolated', and/or 'hopeless'. I am also considering a full time job to keep my mind busy. Hope ur feeling better soon
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