If you are a cutter, what drives you to that point of self-mutilation? How do you go about your attempt??
Answers: I am no longer a cutter but used to be when I was 17. I was just very very depressed, and something just clicked in my head to get rid of the pain so i started cutting my wrists. I really did forget everything that was going on in my mind at that time. I would just let the blood flow down and not even wipe it clean. I once even cut my wrist in front of my boyfriend because he was one reason why i was depressed. I hid the cuts pretty well for awhile until a teacher saw them and told the school counselor. I am better now, and when i look back at doing that 4 years ago it doesn't even seem like it's me. It's as if i'm looking at myself through a tv or something and watching myself do it, but it's not real. I went about my attempt by just waiting till i got in the shower and would just sit there and cut and let the water run over the cuts.
You have learned not to express your feelings because of some trauma in your life, so now the only way to deal with overwhelming feelings, a release of emotions, is to cut yourself. You can find a therapist who specializes in cutting.
I have been researching a variation of this question for a paper on depression especially in teenagers, so while I may not be a cutter, I may be able to be of some assistance.
In my findings, I have discovered that these persons feel an inexorable pressure around them, and since they believe that they are no avenues to express themselves available, them turn to self-mutilation due to feelings of guilt and thoughts that focus on bringing down their self-esteem on a global level.
In 7 of 32 persons interviewed so far their answers have been along the lines of this quote from one of the interviewee - It feels like a poison of hate, distrust, anger [all the negative emotions] coursing through my veins from my heart [which feels empty, hollow and black] and it gathers on this specific point on my wrist. I feel the only way to relieve myself is by allowing the poison to escape my body by letting my blood run.
Most of the interviewees, used razors to cut themselves when they are in privacy or when something occurs to bring them down further, they find a secluded place. Some have admitted to taking anything sometimes (i.e. sporks, keys, coins, etc.) to go about the act when they feel an extreme urge to cut. However, these cases were rare and I think that they were suffering from Major Depression.
I hope this helps you.
It can also be a feeling of a lack of control. Sometimes I describe it as having a lot of undefined pain and then wanting to create pain that is defined.. like I Don't know why i am so upset but if i do this then it will hurt and I will know why.
Also it is like a lot of emotion that you want to get out.. like when you want to hit something, only you really want to do it to yourself.
I didn't understand it when I did it in middle school and i didn't understand it when I relapsed into it a few times when i got older.
Sometimes i want to do other stuff like hit, shut my finger in a door, etc..
Also usually it is like i am trying to punish myself for something (but it doesn't work because i dont associate it with the thing im trying to punish myself for)
and one other thing.. when i talked to a counselor about it we were talking about how it had to do with not having a good coping mechanism for stress. (this is a bad coping mechanism for stress)
You R not wanting to know why people R cutting themselves. U want to learn and start. Why? Don't do it. Seek help. If you R asking this for research seek some past posting for starters.
no longer one but what used to put me over the top is overwhelming stress or anger just try to find a new way to get it out of you
get help. Other than a person desiring some kind of attention and maybe approval from a friend that may or may not think it is cool.. a cutter wouldn't ask on how to go about it.
I think you need help for depression and you need to tell your parents that they need to make themselves a little more available to you. They need to give you more time.
Work on your feelings and esteem and seek some professional help.
it never bothered me what i used but i think i like glass the most. and i never really gave it much though before.
if you do this type of thing then look up also for the cutters rights on the net as it is good to know them so if you need medical help you know a) what your rights are B) what your likely to face in the medical profession as they are not always good to self harmer's
well these people need to get professional help as it is something much more powerful than they are (meaning they cant control it) so they can deal with whatever it is that is making them do this
if they don't, they could end up with permanent scars (on skin/etc) or even worse
i'm bipolar before i found how to manage my emotions i cut my legs mostly. it was to identify what was hurting. my heart hurt but that i couldnt pin point the slice across my leg would redirect the pain and i could go okay this is whats hurting now lets fix it. i got help and have moved on.
I never cared to use sharp implements, just my nails would do the trick especially on my arms and legs, unfortunately it left permanent scars, now I have to wear long sleeves in 90 degree weather. Was put on prozac and other meds, for a while, it made me very sleepy since I am also on cancer medication. Finally I just stopped, and also stopped taking the meds except the one for cancer. So far so good, now I just need the scars to heal...
Good Luck!
You have learned not to express your feelings because of some trauma in your life, so now the only way to deal with overwhelming feelings, a release of emotions, is to cut yourself. You can find a therapist who specializes in cutting.
I have been researching a variation of this question for a paper on depression especially in teenagers, so while I may not be a cutter, I may be able to be of some assistance.
In my findings, I have discovered that these persons feel an inexorable pressure around them, and since they believe that they are no avenues to express themselves available, them turn to self-mutilation due to feelings of guilt and thoughts that focus on bringing down their self-esteem on a global level.
In 7 of 32 persons interviewed so far their answers have been along the lines of this quote from one of the interviewee - It feels like a poison of hate, distrust, anger [all the negative emotions] coursing through my veins from my heart [which feels empty, hollow and black] and it gathers on this specific point on my wrist. I feel the only way to relieve myself is by allowing the poison to escape my body by letting my blood run.
Most of the interviewees, used razors to cut themselves when they are in privacy or when something occurs to bring them down further, they find a secluded place. Some have admitted to taking anything sometimes (i.e. sporks, keys, coins, etc.) to go about the act when they feel an extreme urge to cut. However, these cases were rare and I think that they were suffering from Major Depression.
I hope this helps you.
It can also be a feeling of a lack of control. Sometimes I describe it as having a lot of undefined pain and then wanting to create pain that is defined.. like I Don't know why i am so upset but if i do this then it will hurt and I will know why.
Also it is like a lot of emotion that you want to get out.. like when you want to hit something, only you really want to do it to yourself.
I didn't understand it when I did it in middle school and i didn't understand it when I relapsed into it a few times when i got older.
Sometimes i want to do other stuff like hit, shut my finger in a door, etc..
Also usually it is like i am trying to punish myself for something (but it doesn't work because i dont associate it with the thing im trying to punish myself for)
and one other thing.. when i talked to a counselor about it we were talking about how it had to do with not having a good coping mechanism for stress. (this is a bad coping mechanism for stress)
You R not wanting to know why people R cutting themselves. U want to learn and start. Why? Don't do it. Seek help. If you R asking this for research seek some past posting for starters.
no longer one but what used to put me over the top is overwhelming stress or anger just try to find a new way to get it out of you
get help. Other than a person desiring some kind of attention and maybe approval from a friend that may or may not think it is cool.. a cutter wouldn't ask on how to go about it.
I think you need help for depression and you need to tell your parents that they need to make themselves a little more available to you. They need to give you more time.
Work on your feelings and esteem and seek some professional help.
it never bothered me what i used but i think i like glass the most. and i never really gave it much though before.
if you do this type of thing then look up also for the cutters rights on the net as it is good to know them so if you need medical help you know a) what your rights are B) what your likely to face in the medical profession as they are not always good to self harmer's
well these people need to get professional help as it is something much more powerful than they are (meaning they cant control it) so they can deal with whatever it is that is making them do this
if they don't, they could end up with permanent scars (on skin/etc) or even worse
i'm bipolar before i found how to manage my emotions i cut my legs mostly. it was to identify what was hurting. my heart hurt but that i couldnt pin point the slice across my leg would redirect the pain and i could go okay this is whats hurting now lets fix it. i got help and have moved on.
I never cared to use sharp implements, just my nails would do the trick especially on my arms and legs, unfortunately it left permanent scars, now I have to wear long sleeves in 90 degree weather. Was put on prozac and other meds, for a while, it made me very sleepy since I am also on cancer medication. Finally I just stopped, and also stopped taking the meds except the one for cancer. So far so good, now I just need the scars to heal...
Good Luck!
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